Sorry ah, Thambi!

Too often we utter the word sorry - with no genuine guilt or desire to change behind it. Sorry - on general basis - refers to an apologetic signature to indicate oneself's guilt of his deeds. Somehow, such common and simple expression has become an undesirable word for the unpredictable society to utter. Notice that I have identified and certified the society as an unpredictable herd - I'll explain why.

The society is unpredictable because in times of great urgency which requires an apologetic "sorry", we choose not too. However, we use the word sorry so common time after time - when there is no urgency in it. The bottom line is that the society has yet to identify the gravity of an apologetic "sorry" and it is being overused and underused.

Overused 

• When your partner or sibling apologise because they pay full attention on their last level of Candy Crush and refuse to pay attention towards the conversation you kindled.  
• When your spouse or "soulmate" (whatever!) says "I'm sorry! It won't happen again!" after you caught him/her cheating.
• When someone apologises repeatedly over the same mistake that they have committed over (insert a 4 digit number) times!
• When someone uses sorry as an excuse - rather that it's supposed apologetic expression. "Sorry ah, Thambi! Brought you teh tarik instead of plain water. Nevermine la, drink only la!" (True story, no joke.)

Underused

• When conflicts or misunderstandings that would only require a simple sorry is stretched due to one's ego.
• When you know you have hurt someone's feelings yet you refuse to apologise.
• When you hurt you parents feelings - it doesn't matter if you're right or wrong, it's your parents. How could you be the reason for tears on the sorrow faces of the parents that brought you up with joy?

Continuing, if your apologetic "sorry" does carry a weight behind it, it should fulfil the criteria of The Laws of Sorry! (What!?)

• Sorry has to be said with great gravity of emotions and feelings, not plain faced.
• Sorry has to connected to our behaviour. Saying sorry means meaning sorry, you have to show that you're actually saying it. Be responsible your apologies.
• Sorry has to be followed with a change. People often say, "sorry doesn't change anything." No? If you actually meant your apologies, change yourself to what you apologised for. Then, sorry "would change anything."

With the bones of contentions spilled, we all could link ourselves to moments - in which we should have said sorry, yet we refused. Moments in which we said sorry thousand times, plainly. So, be a man of your words and say sorry when you need to!

P.S. I've been busy lately with my first semester's examinations. To those who have waited long for my blog posts, I'm sorry - no seriously, I truly am.